You’ve probably heard of the “first look.” It’s when you see each other before the ceremony, usually in a private moment with just your photographer (and maybe your video team). Some people love it. Others aren’t sure. If you’re on the fence, here’s what it actually changes — and what it doesn’t.
It Changes the Flow of the Day
Doing a first look usually means starting photos earlier in the day. That includes portraits of the two of you, your wedding party, and sometimes even family. It front-loads the schedule. That can be a good thing — once the ceremony happens, you can head straight into the rest of the celebration without needing to pause for photos.
If you’re not interested in missing cocktail hour or rushing through portraits between the ceremony and reception, a first look is a convenient solution.
It Doesn’t Ruin the Ceremony
Many people worry that seeing each other before the ceremony makes that moment feel less emotional. In my experience, it doesn’t. The walk down the aisle still hits. The music still plays. The room still shifts. The only difference is that you’ve already had a moment to process things privately, which can make the ceremony feel even more grounded.
First looks don’t take away from the day. They give you time to settle in before everything speeds up.
It Adds Time for Photos (and for You)
If you want portraits in multiple locations, or if you’re getting married in winter and the sun sets early, a first look can be beneficial. It gives you more time when the light is good, and it lets us build in breathing room. No rushing. No skipping shots because we ran out of daylight. Just a slower pace and more space to move.
And perhaps most importantly, it gives you time together. That’s rare on a wedding day.
It Doesn’t Mean You Miss Out on Emotion
You don’t lose anything by doing a first look. You get to experience things a little differently. Instead of reacting in front of a crowd, you react in your own way, in your own space. Some couples are more themselves when they have a bit of privacy. Others prefer the buildup of the ceremony. Either is fine. But if you’re worried a first look makes things less special, it doesn’t.
So Should You Do It?
There’s no right answer. If logistics are tight, if sunset is early, if you want to be at your cocktail hour, a first look is practical. If you’d rather wait and see each other for the first time at the ceremony, that works too. My job is to help either way.
But if you’re open to it, and want more time, more light, and a little space to exhale before the day kicks into high gear — a first look might be the right call. Let’s discuss what matters to you and create a timeline that works.
